Talking about Miscarriage

Talking about Miscarriage

It’s a difficult conversation but we need to talk about miscarriage

Meet Julia Bueno, a psychotherapist who has written a new book about miscarriage. Julia wants to change the way we talk about it, following her own devastating losses and then working with women who’ve been through it.

Julia and I have spoken before about her work and I was really looking forward to talking her book, which is the culmination of an incredible amount of work looking at perceptions, history and our narrative of miscarriage. Julia covers early, late and recurrent and the impacts on our lives and highlights how whilst things have improved we still have a long way to go. 

The Brink of Being

Julia’s book reveals her own tragic loss of twins and how the loss has changed her life. Julia explains how our narrative is focused on the idea that a bond with a child can only begin after a living baby us born and talks about the Korean idea of Taeygo which is that life begins at conception.

We also discussed the language used around miscarriage when it’s early or a second pregnancy after a successful birth. Other people’s comments such as ‘At least you can get pregnant’ or ‘At least you have a child’ and how books you read during pregnancy – don’t prepare you

Numbers

To put things into perspective, the book discusses how approximately 137,000 women every year experience pain and bleeding and go for medical treatment, with early loss  figures being around 50,00 – however they’re the ones we know as there’s no official record for any baby lost before 24 weeks

One example is Lucy who we learn about dealing with a miscarriage at home, with no idea what to do or how to morn the passing. Julia shares the story of Nico a YouTuber with 1/2 million views – showing an 8 1/2 week old baby she has lost. 

We discuss feelings of guilt and shame and how most miscarriages arent’ investigated. How it can impact your work, cause anxiety, the effects on men

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